This is the bottom line: If you can’t keep a conversation going, you won’t ever be super successful with women~Let me cut to the chase: if you don’t know how what to talk to girls about, and aren’t able to carry on a good conversation, you can forget about being awesome with girls}. The good news is… with consistent effort and practice, you can master this skill. Don’t worry if you don’t have a natural “gift of gab.” Just put in the necessary time to practice these skills, and over time you’ll make dramatic improvements – to the point where chatting and flirting with women will feel completely natural. That’s because you’ve developed a core foundation of skills for any situation you’ll encounter.

If you have multiple ways to sustain a conversation, it creates more curiosity in the mind of a woman. When you use these methods of “creative conversation,” she’ll never know what you’re going to say next – and this stimulates her curosity and interest in you. By keeping her guessing (and on her toes), you’ll make sure she is never bored when talking to you – and boredom is probably the #1 “attraction killer” that will destroy your chances of hooking up. You may not be “The Most Interesting Man In The World” from the Dos Equis commercials, but you’ll be a lot more interesting than most guys who don’t practice these conversation keys.

Let’s jump into it – here are the top 5 ways to keep a conversation moving forward:

1. Ask her questions that are non-threatening and genuine

If you’re been studying PUA (Pick Up Artist) routines and language, there’s a good chance that the girl you’re talking to has encountered this stuff before. PUA routines have gone mainstream, and in bars and clubs around the world these routines are being overused. If you try any of these tricks and they aren’t congruent with your personality, at the best you’re probably off to a bad start – and at the worst, she’s mentally blown you off. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. A woman needs to trust and feel safe around you before she’s willing to spend more time in a conversation. Real badasses don’t rely on canned lines, they have the confidence to express genuine opinions and questions.

2. Be perceptive, notice details, and be aware of your surroundings

You’ll never “run out of steam” during the conversation, and struggle to figure out what to say next, if you pay attention to the environment you’re in — and the people, places and things around you. . This can spark attraction in a woman, when she feels that you’re confident enough to lead the conversation and you’re tuned into your surroundings. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Don’t underestimate the power of the female “B.S. detector,” which is hard-wired into them. (This is especially true with very attractive women, who have a ton of experience with talking to men and can spot a phony a mile away.) If she feels that you’re not being truthful, or that you’re trying to manipulate her into hooking up with you, it’s game over.

3. Keep it light (never let her see you sweat)

Most women spend a lot of time worrying about any number of topics. A guy who can keep her mind off the worries of the world is someone she’ll want to spend more time with. Think of Hollywood icons such as Sylvester Stallone, George Clooney, Russell Crowe, Clint Eastwood, or John Wayne — these guys never seemed worried or anxious, and were able to handle any situation that arose. And they added an occasional dose of good humor to show they were in control. When you radiate this type of confidence and control, women are going to want to follow your lead because you make them feel safe. Women like being around guys who make them feel safe and secure – and you can do this by staying calm, cool and relaxed.

4. Listen actively (being a good listener can be even MORE important than knowing what to say next)

Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you’re hanging out in a bar or club. You’ll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking — usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn’t won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to “earn points” by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It’s also about being an attentive listener. This may not come easily or naturally to you at first – especially if you’re an extrovert, or are nervous in social situations. Even if you have to bite your tongue waiting for someone to finish their thought or ideas, do it. People like other people who let them talk, and women will respect and appreciate you more. This also takes some of the burden off of you when you’re conversing with women. Instead of constantly trying to dominate the conversation and talking about yourself, ask her a thought-provoking question (check out the Mack Tactics book to learn some of these, especially the chapter on “Hypotheticals”) and then listen and appreciate what she has to say.

5. Stay in the moment and always be “present” (not distracted)

As guys, we think about a lot of things: The idiot that cut us off in traffic… what time tonight’s game starts… or what band is playing this weekend – and we don’t focus on the person or situation right in front of us. If you’re the type of guy who gets anxious or tongue-tied around hot girls, you might allow your thoughts to drift all over the place (“Does this girl like me?” “What if she has a boyfriend?” “Do I sound like a total dork?” Etc.). When this happens, and you allow your own “mental traffic” to distract you, you won’t be focused on the present moment. This means that even though you might be standing right in front her, you are not truly “present.” And when women sense this, it’s a big turn-off.

A female friend of mine said: “Being present is EVERYTHING.” You must stay fully engaged in the present moment, contributing to the conversation in a genuine way, sharing your thoughts, and acknowledging what she has to say. You aren’t nodding like a bobble head doll, or mindlessly saying “uh-huh” or “yeah” every so often. Women aren’t fooled at all when you do this. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass.

Mastering the art of conversation will yield benefits beyond scoring with women. These skills are also essential for forging business relationships and making progress with your other goals. It’s the social equivalent of hitting a million-dollar jackpot in Vegas.

Conversation is just one of the skills needed to be a badass with women. I don’t want you to spend years flailing around “in the wilderness” trying to apply these tactics without proper guidance. What you need is a thorough, comprehensive game plan which will help you go from the opening conversation, all the way to a successful seduction. And I’m not a believer in PUA routines or trying to use sneaky, manipulative tricks to attract women, since this stuff rarely works in the long run. I’m sure your goal is to meet QUALITY women — not girls who are easily tricked or deceived into sleeping with you.

If you’re ready to become the “total package” that women love, try reading the book Mack Tactics and I believe it will completely change your “game,” as it did for me. This book contains dozens of awesome strategies and techniques for meeting girls and quickly creating “connections” with them — but at the same time, you’ll learn how to develop an overall lifestyle and image that women find deeply interesting and attractive. Check out the book Mack Tactics and you’ll quickly learn how to talk to a girl you like — along with dozens of other tactics and techniques that will take your dating life to a higher level.

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